Friend With Bulimia

Question:

My roommate (and close friend) has bulimia and is trying really hard to deal with it and change. Even though she wants to get better, it is really stressful to live with someone in the middle of an eating disorder and I'm afraid it is wrecking our relationship. I want to help her in any way I can but I'm not sure what to do.

Answer:

It sounds like you are in a painful and difficult situation. There are things you can do to support your friend in addressing her eating problems but ultimately the responsibility for change and recovery is hers.

Here are some of the things you can do to help your friend:

Learn more about eating disorders so that you will be more aware of issues and warning signs.

Listen to your friend, ask about her feelings.

Talk about your concerns for her and your feelings as you see her struggling with bulimia.

And most importantly, suggest that she get professional help.

Sadly, it may take time for your friend to be able to use your help and support. You can be a good example by looking for a support group in your area for the loved ones of people struggling with eating disorders. Good luck.